Protecting your Emotions During the Corona Pandemic.

As we all know, times are uncertain as we witness a historic moment in our life time. The corona pandemic is a threat to the whole world. The world is out of wits and the virus is merciless. And, we are on lockdowns, quarantines, and constant shock at the news that keep coming. 

I would like us to shift our focus and think how we can strengthen our emotional connection at such a time. Even as an individual, you can disconnect with yourself and find yourself acting up crazy. As far as families are concerned, are children connecting with parent and vice versa..? Some couples can not stand each other on a normal day. How much more now that they are on lockdown. Hopefully they don’t kill each other…Here are some tips to get you thinking and acting.

Bids For Connection: The Building Blocks of Emotional Connection

In Dr. John Gottman’s apartment lab at the University of Washington, he studies how people interact with one another under everyday circumstances. He has discovered that “bids for connection” happen at a very high rate between partners. For example, happy couples “bid” 100 times in ten minutes. What makes the bids so important? How those bids are made and responded to influences how well that relationship is going to fare over time.

What is a bid for connection? As Dr. Gottman explains in his new book, The Relationship Cure, bids can be verbal or non-verbal. They can be highly physical or come totally from the intellect. They can be sexual or non-sexual. The key is that a bid for connection is an attempt to create connection between two people. Its function is to keep the relationship going forward and in a positive direction.

Bids are the fundamental element of emotional connection.